Some couples are discovering that virtual relationships are wreaking havoc on real ones. Couples are agonizing over whether online sex is actually off-line infidelity.  A common attitude among those who use the Internet to engage in online pornography or sexual liaisons is that it is "just a place to have some fun."
A place where they can "express themselves as a person that could sexually perform anything, go anywhere, and do anything."   Most who succumb to this perversion start off downloading pornography and then graduate to live interactive pornography.  Online sex addicts begin to lose touch with reality and begin ignoring more and more the wishes of their mate, no matter what they say or think, resulting in lost trust and a feeling of betrayal.  To the enlightened spouse it is just like having an affair. And yet, somehow, because it was just a screen, not a real, live person, the person engaged in the perversion doesn't  understand what why it's such a big deal.

 Therapist Rob Weiss, who specializes in treating sexual addiction, says that spouses take Online cheating just like an affair.  “The spouses-partners are feeling very wounded,” he says. “It doesn’t matter whether it’s a live person or an image, it doesn’t matter whether it’s in a one-on-one situation or whether they’re doing it with the computer. They feel like they’re being cheated on.” In his book “Cybersex Exposed,” Weiss explains why online sex can be intensely addictive and very destructive for some people.  “They’re not thinking about their spouse, or their kids, or their job, or what time they have to get up in the morning,” he says “They’re simply lost in the behavior.” 

The National Council on Sex Addiction and Compulsivity estimates that two million Americans are addicted to "cybersex".

Do you suspect your spouse may be one of them ?